Last
week the Supreme Court voted 5 to 4 to legalize same sex marriage, granting
homosexuals multiple civil rights that heterosexuals have enjoyed since the
United States declared independence from Great Britain. Finally gay men and women are free to marry
whomever they choose in all 50 states. The gay family nest has been
legitimized—not only by TV shows like
American
Family—but in the real world. Think of all the changes that will unfold as
a result of legitimizing love between same gender couples: ease of adoption, marital privileges upon
illness and death, including hospital visitation, burial rites, estate planning
and much more. Children raised by gay
parents will grow up alongside the offspring of hetero parents; they’ll
interact in pre-school, on the playground and in college classrooms. In one generation, the new normal can begin
to replace much of the prejudice, pre-conceived and outdated beliefs about who
can—and should—marry whom.
Legalizing
same sex marriages will also lead to profound changes in the quest for
diversity by college admissions committees across the country. Even at my alma mater, Vassar College—one of
the most liberal of liberal arts schools—I’m betting that there will be efforts
to recruit the offspring of same sex
parents in the same way that students of
different races, religions, income levels, and sexual orientations from all
over the world are included to honor human
diversity and encourage the expression of diverse perspectives in classroom
debates today. How will this inclusion change the
college culture? The effect
of gay marriage on the evolution of education remains to be seen. But I can
give you an example of the changes that have occurred since the late 70’s when
I went to Vassar. At that time, there was no major in African Studies, but 40
years later most colleges offer that area of concentration. And whoever heard
of hip-hop as a freshman English course? Yet in 2010, my son Max wrote and
studied hip-hop at Vassar.
As history
books are rewritten to reflect society’s gradual acceptance of gender diversity
and same sex marriage, what courses might be offered to tomorrow’s college
freshmen? Will there be classes like
“The Origins of Same Sex Marriage?” Maybe Caitlyn Jenner and other transgender
celebrities will become visiting professors and commencement speakers. How wonderful it is to imagine a world where human
diversity is accepted and respected (if not always embraced) in the spirit of
inclusion.
But
where does that leave the neurodiversity movement? While I’m deeply grateful that my daughter,
Sarah, on the autistic spectrum had the opportunity to graduate from Pace
University, I’m also deeply disappointed that she is currently languishing for (over
a year now) without a job. Academic
support programs at various colleges—Mitchell, Adelphi, Manhattanville and
Landmark among others—are wonderful opportunities for talented, motivated
students with learning disabilities and autism to earn a college degree. However, colleges have not yet taken the next
step: incorporating students with autism
into the social fabric on college campuses.
While Pace University’s OASIS program did an
excellent job of tutoring and advocating for Sarah and other students with
high-functioning autism, none of these students were truly embraced or
integrated by their neurotypical peers. On
the contrary, they were isolated (as if for everybody’s mutual protection?) No
one even tried integrating the OASIS students with neurotypical students for
any organized exchange of ideas, values and perspectives. Consider the potential
mutual benefits of fostering such an integration. First, invite Temple Grandin, John Robison and other speakers to address incoming freshman on how various aspects of autism enrich
the neurotypical perspective. Second,
appoint student ambassadors (with and without autism) to develop respect, patience
and empathy on the part of the neurotypical students. Offer students
opportunities to apply compassion in action, instead of merely giving lip
service to our appreciation for the differences in others. Neurotypical thinkers might be inspired or
facilitated by ideas from the perspective of those on the spectrum. Above all,
the desegregation of people on the spectrum with neurotypical folks can only
lead to greater understanding and mutual benefit. That doesn’t mean this kind
of program would be EASY to establish. But consider the alternative: an
increasingly marginalized population of aging adults on the spectrum (who are NOT cute like little kids) and who will require a lifetime of care-taking and
dependence. Do we really want to take on that
challenges as a culture? Remember 1 in every 68 babies is currently born on
the spectrum, and that number is rising every year.
At Pace, the OASIS
program was a big step forward, but the road to desegregation is long.. Sarah’s professors were encouraged to engage,
accommodate (or at least tolerate) the minority of students with autism. (After all, parents of kids on the spectrum
are in essence paying part of the professors’ salaries—not to mention the extra
tuition to the support program.)
However, Pace’s neurotypical population was (not to my knowledge)
instructed or offered any incentive to include or engage ASD students in clubs
or social activities. Nor were they even
invited to ASD student events. Was it a foregone conclusion that
neurotypical kids wouldn’t gain from interactions with their ASD peers? The
failure of colleges to integrate students on the spectrum into their
neurotypical population is a missed opportunity for everyone.
Here’s a thought: what about
offering college credit or financial aid to psychology or education majors who
are willing to help students like Sarah navigate social opportunities on
campus?
Everyone ends up a winner. The neurotypical and the ASD student gain valuable
job experience and emotional training by working with others who see the world
differently; and the world benefits from college graduates with diverse
perspectives and abilities who know how to interact effectively,. After four years of living, learning and
working together, maybe neurotypical grads will WANT to hire their ASD
friends and fellow alums. In addition,
the students with autism will spend four years learning new social skills and
perhaps be better prepared and more confident when looking for that first
elusive job out of college. Perhaps then people in the neurotypical world will
become partners with those on the spectrum—not only in technology, engineering
and computer companies but also in the arts, entertainment and education. Such a
collaboration is bound to yield yet another win—a better working world for all
of us.
Once upon a time same sex marriage
seemed like a faraway dream. Isn’t it possible to imagine a world where more
people worked together and pooled their talents to the betterment of everyone,
where neurodiversity simply became the new normal?
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