After
the mass murder of 129 innocent people in Paris by ISIS terrorists, are you
surprised that many countries—including the US—are reluctant to allow Syrian
refugees entrance? Paul Ryan and other
conservative politicians are rightly worried about the wolf in sheep’s
clothing: what if 1 out of 100 Syrians fleeing ISIS violence turns out to be a
jihad perpetrator instead of a victim?
The governors of 27 states, including Alabama, Georgia, Texas, Michigan,
Illinois, New Hampshire and Maine have already declared their unwillingness to
take to accept
any of the 10,000 Syrian refugees President Obama agreed to allow into the US next year. Hatred, fear and the misunderstanding that all Muslims are potential jihadists has created an even wider gulf between what we now perceive as them and us.
The unwelcome mats have been thrown
down in front of doors, multiplying as the world becomes an ever more hostile
and terrifying place. Gone are the carefree
days of leisure activities for Americans and Europeans both. Going out for
drinks, attending a sporting event or a concert— and especially going on
vacation— are all overshadowed with worry today. Now we have to wonder: what if some crazy
psychopaths show up with machine guns and suicide vests while we’re listening
to our favorite band at Madison Square Garden? What if there’s a bomb on the
plane taking your whole family to Florida for some sun? Can you blame the
average person for being afraid?
On the
other hand, succumbing to fear (and hatred) is what keeps making conditions
worse for everyone. Xenophobia didn’t
work out so well for us in World War II, and it’s not a viable or moral solution
now either. Why don’t we work together with
other countries to eliminate ISIS,
before
we have World War III? Beyond bombs,
drones, and “boots on the ground,” we need to invest in the young,
disenfranchised Muslims who are tired of living in abject poverty (while
watching Americans live it up on TV.) Any group of disenfranchised youth is at
risk when they are unable to get the training and jobs they need to improve
their lives and develop a mature sense of self-worth. Instead of treating our
fellow humans across the globe like second class citizens, let’s help them
become productive members of society BEFORE they morph into enraged fanatics.
Suicide is a desperate and (presumably) preventable act. Desperate people do
desperate things; we all know that. Unfortunately, most of us who have
reasonably happy and productive lives don’t pay enough attention to the "have-nots." But terrorists have made sure those ignorance-is-bliss
days are over…forever. (And wasn’t that their goal, after all?) We
must focus on these long-ignored and
disenfranchised groups of people—NOW.
What do
I know about marginalized people, the way they suffer, and how they lash out in
pain when their most basic needs are ignored?
Glad you asked! Not only am I an American citizen born and raised in NYC
who lived through 9/11, but I am also the mother of a young adult on the
autistic spectrum. How does being a parent of a special needs child give me a
deeper understanding of global terrorism?
Children with disabilities like autism are marginalized and abandoned by
society the moment they become young adults. My daughter Sarah has had the
benefit of the best therapy and education available, along with parents who are
ferocious advocates – yet still there are few to no jobs or opportunities for
her here in New York City, one of the world’s richest cities in the wealthiest
of nations.
Appropriate housing options are
almost non-existent for Sarah and others with disabilities like hers. My daughter is on a waiting list that I’m
told could take TEN years. In that case,
Sarah will be 34 when she moves out of the family nest. Of course it would be ridiculous to suggest
that my daughter is a potential jihad recruit for ISIS, but she has always
dreamed of living independently, and we have done everything in our power to
help her—along with many other parents who are struggling to help their sons
and daughters lead productive lives. Shouldn’t
Sarah be able to move forward toward an adult life (the way her neurotypical twin
brother has done) instead of waiting on the sidelines for who-knows-how-long?
Thousands of frustrated parents
like me are filling out mountains of paperwork, attending autism conferences,
and town hall meetings. How could we NOT
be angry and disappointed at the woefully inadequate resources that reflect the
lack of compassion and understanding offered to the most vulnerable of all
unemployed millennials? The unwelcome
mat is everywhere we turn. Obviously I’m
not planning to strap on a suicide vest, but I can’t help empathizing with the
rage of the “have-nots” in ways I wouldn’t if I wasn’t Sarah’s mother. Special
needs parents like me have a unique perspective. I’m one of the “haves.” Having a career, a home and a comfortable
life for me and my family were never in doubt—until now. Henry and I are not going to live forever,
and even if we were immortal, don’t the Sarahs of the world deserve to lead
productive and independent lives? How
long must young adults with disabilities wait to take their legitimate place in
society and escape from being a “have-not?”
Sadly, the problem of marginalized
adults on the autistic spectrum is about to increase exponentially. According to the most recent research
results, the CDC just announced that 1 in 45 children—instead of 1 in 68—are
being born on the autistic spectrum. Hopefully, bureaucrats and thought leaders
will stop wasting time arguing over whether these frightening statistics are
exaggerated, (due to better screening or changing criteria) and start thinking
about how to accommodate all of these young people reaching adulthood. If we don’t invest in these young adults and
find meaningful ways to include them in our society NOW, the disabled homeless
population will continue to grow until one day a hopeless (and expensive)
caliphate is scattered on our street corners as well as in (tax payer funded) institutions. Let’s remove the unwelcome mat for victims of
violence, terror AND those born with an autistic spectrum disorder. Isn’t it time to exercise some compassion? Or
would you rather consider the alternative? It’s never
too late for the George Orwell world of 1984.
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